Why doesn’t he post me on Social Media 

Honesty Moment: 
Long ago I would feel a jealous feeling when I would see men post their ladies pictures on social media or post a loving status about them. I would think to myself…. why doesn’t my guy do this? Am I not the one? Is he hiding something? THEN I TOOK A LONNNG HARD LOOK AT MYSELF.  (YES MYSELF)
Why was I overlooking the acknowledgements he made everyday that only I knew about.  Like when he tells me that I am beautiful, smart, inspiring. When he gives me kisses, back and shoulder rubs, brings me snacks that only he knows I like. Smack my backside, come to my job EVERYDAY, Lazy days, photoshoots in his camera, long meaningful conversations … Why did I not see those things as enough?  Like when something exciting happens we call each other. When he posts on social media 9 times out of 10 I’ve seen it already. These are the things that make me special. These are things that fill up my Social life.
We tend to let other peoples lives dictate what we think our lives should be like. People will have you thinking that your man is cheating, hiding you and that you are not special all because he chooses not to share you with the world. But what if you already are his world?
I still enjoy seeing others spread their love but now instead of feeling jealous I feel Happy because I can relate to what they feel…
I would rather have my PISTACHIOS than be his WCW any day. 
Pistachios are too good.

Daphne Pollard

What you do VS Who you are

​We teach and tell our children to excel in their studies, excel in sports, excel in “WHAT” you want to be. We tell them to make good grades in High School, College for your CAREER. 
We tell our children WORK HARD, STAY FOCUSED ON YOUR CRAFT. Whether it be ART, MUSIC, PERFORMANCE, FOOTBALL, BASKETBALL ETC..
We tell them this all of their Childhood and when they make it to adulthood … THEIR SKILLS ARE TOP NOTCH But….
We never told them that working on WHO THEY ARE WAS just as important AS WHAT THEY ARE. We build the SKILLS BUT NOT THE PERSON PERFORMING THE SKILLS.. 
IT’S NOT THE SAME.
WE CREATE A WORLD OF PEOPLE DEFINED BY WHAT THEY DO INSTEAD OF WHO THEY ARE.

FEAR

​FEAR is usually the reason why you don’t do so many things that you should. But we make excuses for the fear. Why haven’t you quit that job? Moved? Gotten married? Started that business?
We use FINANCES, CHILDREN, FAMILY as EXCUSES. We say we need more time to get our stuff together…. but time won’t help if you NEVER TAKE THE STEP.
Last night I saw some of the most SUCCESSFUL PEOPLE say SUCCESS has nothing to do with FINANCES. LAST NIGHT A WOMAN WHO WORKED FOR A RECORD COMPANY MAKING 500K A YEAR WAS SUICIDAL AND NOT HAPPY UNTIL SHE TRULY DECIDED TO LIVE.
EVERYTHING THAT’S HOLDING YOU BACK IS ROOTED IN FEAR.

What do the LONELY do at Christmas. 

​The people that I LOVE are all in my heart today. And they are scattered everywhere..It’s so amazing how they all fit in my heart and there is plenty of room for more… That LITTLE THING IS POWERFUL. I have been without my love on this day for a few years due to parental duties. At first I was emotional about it. It was like a bitter sweet occasion every year. Bitter because we can’t spend it together but sweet because he is one hell of a father…Today I feel so very different.  We actually communicate. Him an I like really discuss our feelings about the things we are uncomfortable with and we devise plans to handle the discomfort.. That’s why this year is different.  We created our own Chrismas day (Eventhough neither of us are to big on it) he came up with the perfect plan and although I would still love to physically be with him….. My heart is, and he knows that. My heart is with several people.  That’s some powerful ish. That’s why I am happy today. 
“The heart connects when your hands can’t”

-Daphne Pollard

What PROBLEM?

​”If we threw all of our problems in a pile and saw everyone else’s, we’d grab ours back” 

-Regina Brett
I often go back to this quote when I “think” I have a problem… And I said “think” because oftentimes we are the calm of our own storms. This is not to diminish our problems or issues but instead to amplify our BLESSINGS. When you focus on your blessings and solutions , you may even have the opportunity to help someone else in the pile . 

-DAPHNE POLLARD