My hair has been on it’s own journey for over 10 years. I’ve always heard people say DAPHNE Your hair is gorgeous, what do you use, it grows so fast, I wish I had hair like yours.
But in my head I was saying….. YOU HAVE NO IDEA WHAT I GROW THROUGH. My hair has a mind of its own. Now please don’t get me wrong I really do love my hair, it’s just the maintenance part that sucks. Wash day? What is that?
I literally can think of a million things that I need to do when its time to wash my hair. Some people are lucky enough to just place there heads under water mix with shampoo and JUST GO FOR IT. But for me Ughhhhhhh that could never happen.
MY WASH STEPS
- MENTALLY PREPARE TO DEVOTE 8 HOURS (LOL, THAT’S REALLY STEP 1)
- SEPARATE MY HAIR INTO 8 SECTIONS. (Due to my hair texture this can take up to 30 mins)
- APPLY A CONDITIONER TO EACH SECTION.
- SEPARATE EACH SECTION INTO TWO
- DETANGLE EACH SMALL SECTION AND TWIST. (2.5 Hours)
- SIT UNDER A STEAMER TO LOOSEN
- WASH EACH SECTION (hand detangle) (30 mins)
- DEEP CONDITION AND DETANGLE (The tangles return after water hits it 1 Hour a little easier )
- RINSE AND SIT UNDER DRYER OR AIR DRY. (Tie it up and go to bed)
BY NOW I AM TOO TIRED TO STYLE IN ANY WAY SO I JUST WEAR A HEAD WRAP THE NEXT DAY. SO I DECIDED TO LOC.
I am ready to be a wife and a mother. Why?
Because I know the power I hold alone already. I know the power I have to give. I know that they are also ready for me. I know that
I am allowed to know myself enough to know what I’m ready for. DON’T FORGET TO PREPARE FOR JOY.
J O U R N E Y I N G.
You have to communicate with your partner truthfully, and with purpose. Being in a relationship doesn’t mean that your partner will automatically KNOW exactly how you should feel. Some of us tend to feel like “well he/she should know me” but if that’s the case then shouldn’t you know them as well? Being in a relationship is INTENTIONAL, and because it is intentional you have to feed, nurture, love, protect, respect it and most of all you have to grow and evolve with it. Be open and honest with your significant other about how and what you feel. Talk about your future, without forgetting to enjoy the day. Your relationship will work just as hard for you as you do for it if you trust and believe that your intentional decision to be apart of this ship will create the journey of a lifetime.
I never want ANYONE to do ANYTHING for me because it’s the “RIGHT THING TO DO” I really don’t care who you are.. Like I told my Guy Don’t Propose or Marry me because its the “RIGHT” thing to do. Friends and family don’t come to my events or support me because its the “RIGHT” thing to do. WHY?
I am a realist, and I truly understand the value that I hold, so in my Opinion The RIGHT thing to do is what a COLLECTIVE GROUP DECIDES IS ACCEPTABLE FOR ALL PEOPLE . But that doesn’t necessarily mean that that’s Whats right for YOU, ME or OUR situation… I Want to be the decision because its right FOR YOU, not RIGHT TO DO.
Listen, there are a lot of FORCED RELATIONSHIPS, MARRIAGES BECAUSE OF PREGNANCY, FRIENDSHIPS, ETC… Out here because it is the RIGHT THING TO DO in someones eyes. I’m not saying that it is destined not to work out… I’m just saying that I want to be the ORGANIC CHOICE… Not because someone told you that it was right, but because you truly feel that it’s right.
Long ago I would feel a jealous feeling when I would see men post their ladies pictures on social media or post a loving status about them. I would think to myself…. why doesn’t my guy do this? Am I not the one? Is he hiding something? THEN I TOOK A LONNNG HARD LOOK AT MYSELF. (YES MYSELF)
Why was I overlooking the acknowledgements he made everyday that only I knew about. Like when he tells me that I am beautiful, smart, inspiring. When he gives me kisses, back and shoulder rubs, brings me snacks that only he knows I like. Smack my backside, come to my job EVERYDAY, Lazy days, photoshoots in his camera, long meaningful conversations … Why did I not see those things as enough? Like when something exciting happens we call each other. When he posts on social media 9 times out of 10 I’ve seen it already. These are the things that make me special. These are things that fill up my Social life.
We tend to let other peoples lives dictate what we think our lives should be like. People will have you thinking that your man is cheating, hiding you and that you are not special all because he chooses not to share you with the world. But what if you already are his world?
I still enjoy seeing others spread their love but now instead of feeling jealous I feel Happy because I can relate to what they feel…
I would rather have my PISTACHIOS than be his WCW any day.
Pistachios are too good.
We teach and tell our children to excel in their studies, excel in sports, excel in “WHAT” you want to be. We tell them to make good grades in High School, College for your CAREER.
We tell our children WORK HARD, STAY FOCUSED ON YOUR CRAFT. Whether it be ART, MUSIC, PERFORMANCE, FOOTBALL, BASKETBALL ETC..
We tell them this all of their Childhood and when they make it to adulthood … THEIR SKILLS ARE TOP NOTCH But….
We never told them that working on WHO THEY ARE WAS just as important AS WHAT THEY ARE. We build the SKILLS BUT NOT THE PERSON PERFORMING THE SKILLS..
IT’S NOT THE SAME.
WE CREATE A WORLD OF PEOPLE DEFINED BY WHAT THEY DO INSTEAD OF WHO THEY ARE.
FEAR is usually the reason why you don’t do so many things that you should. But we make excuses for the fear. Why haven’t you quit that job? Moved? Gotten married? Started that business?
We use FINANCES, CHILDREN, FAMILY as EXCUSES. We say we need more time to get our stuff together…. but time won’t help if you NEVER TAKE THE STEP.
Last night I saw some of the most SUCCESSFUL PEOPLE say SUCCESS has nothing to do with FINANCES. LAST NIGHT A WOMAN WHO WORKED FOR A RECORD COMPANY MAKING 500K A YEAR WAS SUICIDAL AND NOT HAPPY UNTIL SHE TRULY DECIDED TO LIVE.
EVERYTHING THAT’S HOLDING YOU BACK IS ROOTED IN FEAR.